Recently Aimée and I decided to commit to playing full out in life and business – how big can we be – how much expansion will we allow in?  Immediately, we felt the stretch in every area; at first it was uncomfortable, now it is the new normal and we grow from this place to create yet another new normal. The very exciting news is that the current energies support expansion and change at the highest levels possible.  It’s important to  say, “YES” to everything that is showing up in your life without labeling it good or bad; allow resistance to fall away and you will be rewarded.

You may be going in and out of clarity and confusion, which is normal. The following process will assist you in gaining the clarity to create this bigger life:

Picture a graveyard. Under the big oak tree in the far corner, there’s a granite headstone. Look closer. See the name engraved? Yep, it’s yours.

So you’re sitting here, looking at your own headstone. There’s your year of birth, and the year you pass. And between them, there’s a coy, little hyphen.

Now, here’s the good news: that hyphen is what you get to play with.

ON BEING BIG:  THE FIRST THING

Let’s take a moment to think analytically about that hyphen. There are two things that anyone who aspires to be big must face: you must first know what you want to do. Or, in the words of poet, Mary Oliver, “Tell me, what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” (We’ll get to the second thing in a moment.)

Determining what you want out of life—your career, relationships and your free time—is a surprisingly hard process for many of us. It’s much easier to abide by the rules and plans of others than to look within ourselves and see clearly what we are meant to—and would really, really enjoy with the whole of our being—do.

Here are 4 starting points for discovering your brand of being big:

1. What are your threads? Everything you’ve done and loved up to this point is a thread running through your life. Those threads are always with you, and you can choose to pick them up again at any time. You may have spent hours reading National Geographic, imagining yourself in the towns and villages of the far corners of the world. If so, maybe it’s time to take some classes or explore putting together a trip this year?

2. Who makes you jealous?  Envy is actually a wonderful way to unearth some of our big, deep desires. Who have you been jealous of recently? Meryl Streep? Maureen Moss? Your yoga teacher or a community leader? Maybe, it’s actually a clue to your being big?

3. What have you always wanted to do? Complete this sentence: “If money and time were no object, I would totally want to…” Work in Paris?  Market your invention?  If so, you could start today with a language tape and begin learning about the patent process.

4. What are your forbidden fruits? Sometimes we tell ourselves that certain things are off limits, when really, it’s just a mirage created by a limiting belief. What seems off-limits to you but might be great fun if it weren’t “forbidden”?

Acting in a play?  Attending a retreat…in Bali?  Writing a book?

THE SECOND THING

Once you are firmly pointed in the direction of your own bigness, you will undoubtedly confront the second thing about being big.  As any hero will tell you, once you start heading in the direction of being big, once you take action toward your goals – the second thing undoubtedly shows up. And, that thing is fear.

Here’s the secret about being big: you still get the socks scared off you on a regular basis. (Perhaps even more often!) But it no longer stops you. It spooks you, absolutely. It makes your knees go weak, without a doubt.  But when you’re living big, fear ceases to be a reason to quit.

Because you’ve got big things you want to do with that little hyphen of yours.

So, what are you going to do with your hyphen – it is all yours to create. This is really exciting after all!

Please share what you discovered through this process and where you will live in the energy of Being Big.

Blessings,

We are only days away from 2012, it is no longer looming out in the very distant future; it is here now! Wherever you are focusing your attention will make a big difference in your life; the question is: will it be create more of the results that you want or more of what you do not?  Remember to keep choosing what you want more of!

As we step through the doorway from one year to the next, it’s natural to do as Janus does: look back and ahead. But this year, instead of just reflecting on the past year or making New Year’s resolutions, consider using this first part of the year to take stock of your life, isn’t that what you really crave, a better life?  Yes… it is appropriate to stay in the present and live one day at a time; and yet, I know you do not really only want one great day, you want a great life.

Who are you? What do you believe? What do you really need?

When we discover who we really are, we stop living on autopilot and start to live with intention, focus and purpose. Our choices become clearer. We begin to make active choices in our life, instead of making excuses or passively living with the status quo.

Here are a few questions to get you started. Have a journal or some way to record your thoughts. (Writing by hand keeps you in touch with your breath and your heart.)

1. What inside of you is aching to be expressed?
2. What needs healing?
3. What unique gifts, talents and skills do you bring to the world?  How are you using them (or not)?
4. Who do you need to forgive?  How about yourself?
5. What beliefs are holding you back or getting in your way?
6. What can you let go of in your life?
7. What makes you happy?

Don’t forget to consider the vital information that other “parts” of yourself are giving you. When you use only your head, your experience of yourself and the world is more limited.

What is your body telling you? When someone yells at you, does your stomach tie up in knots? Do your shoulders stiffen when you’ve been too focused on fulfilling others’ needs and ignoring your own? Notice the messages your body is giving you. For a time, you may be able to deny that you are impacted, but remember that the body never lies!

Check in with your heart. The heart is the home of what is most alive in us. What does your heart have to say about your job? Or, about how you spend your days? Does it need more play time? What, according to your heart, truly matters?

Listen to your intuition, your “gut.” Your intuition speaks volumes, but often gets ignored. What is this voice saying now?

Don’t forget to notice what you already have that is working. Acknowledge and give thanks for the gifts and the beauty and the miracles that are in your life right now. Write them down.

Tell the truth. Now is the time to start being honest about your true identity.  Encouraging those unlived parts of ourselves to emerge can provide an exhilarating sense of discovery and optimism for the New Year and beyond.

At this time of year, although many have the tendency to take on too much and overwhelm or terrorize themselves, it is not helpful or even necessary. Love yourself into the changes and expansion you desire – ahhhh! Now, doesn’t that feel better?

We welcome your thoughts, insights and experiences, to share send an email to info@raisemyvibes.com or on our Facebook page:  http://www.facebook.com/home.php – !/raisemyvibes.

Happy Holidays!

Blessings and Love,

No it is not my birthday.  I am seeing the payoff of being around for a while now and gaining some wisdom.

Yes, I claim that I carry wisdom and tons of it, although in the past that wisdom often went out the window when I was with family. Oh, you know how it goes; you start out really great, so happy to see each other, happy to be connecting again, and then “the old” starts leaking in. You remember how you have always been irritated with this behavior and that behavior; you would think there had been enough years that have gone by that you each would have evolved a bit! So how do you relate lovingly in spite of it all?

The saying, “Words are cheap, action speaks,” is never more true than when applied to family situations and sharing your love. Whether interacting with a romantic partner, your children or other family members, if the actions aren’t there to back up the loving words, it all means nothing.

Below are 10 of the best ways to say, “I love you” in your actions. But there are thousands more. See how creative you can get in coming up with your own ideas. 

1. Greet your loved ones with a big smile, a hug and a kiss.
2. Really listen to what your loved ones are saying; give them your undivided and undistracted attention.
3. Spend time doing some things they enjoy, you may find you enjoy them also.
4. Do simple (even random) acts of kindness, such as massaging shoulders or feet, cooking a favorite meal, running a bath.
5. Spend one-on-one time with your loved ones, with no particular agenda.
6. Commit to truly accepting each other’s faults.
7. Be kind and respectful, no matter what you are sharing, always preserving another’s self-esteem.
8. Be impeccable with your word. If you say you’ll do something, do it when you said you’d do it.
9. Take responsibility for your part in any conflict, and then look at how you can do better next time. Step out of the blame game.
10. Share yourself and what lives deeply inside of you. This is a precious gift that conveys trust and security.

During my recent trip to visit family on the East Coast #10 played a big role. I have always been seen as “different” in my family and yes, it true! (Not less than, and yet very different.)  Over the years I was not fully myself, attempting to smooth the waters: not this time. I showed up fully being myself, and guess what?  I was acknowledged, appreciated and valued. Yes, we have all changed over the years and yet what made the change possible is that “I” made the decision to show up differently, I decided to let my light shine, share my insights, ideas and opinions and let their reaction be fine, whatever that reaction was. Much to my surprise the reaction I received was very positive.

As you enter into this holiday season, spending time with family, friends and loved ones I invite you let your past stories fall away and step into each moment more present and loving, allowing your true light and love to shine through.

Share your experiences and insights at info@raisemyvibes.com we would love to hear from you!

To all of our clients in the U.S. — Happy Thanksgiving!

Blessings and Love,

The opportunity to experience nature in all her glory is around you. Nature is a sacred space that has the power to draw us out of our small mind into the Big Mind of the Universe. So many are expressing distress with the energies that continue to shift and change so rapidly; each of us is being called to go more deeply within to find our connection and balance.  During warm weather, praying or meditating outside in nature can enhance your wellbeing and spiritual practice.  Although the temptation is to reach out around you to find comfort or solutions, the power is within.

I have discovered that the antidote to the energies speeding up is to become slower and focus within. Years ago, I listened to a talk given by Eckhart Tolle. He shared an experience in which he was meeting a friend at an appointed time, the friend arrived later than expected and immediately apologized for keeping Eckhart waiting, to which he replied “I was not waiting I was being”.

I knew there was significance here and yet could not grasp the concept fully, I found myself waiting often, and obviously the questioning stayed with me for a very long time. Earlier this week, a regular client had not arrived at the appointed time. In the past, I would have jumped into one more email or phone call to use my time “efficiently” while I was “waiting.” This time I began focusing on my breathing and dropped into the stillness, my awareness of sensations increased and I felt the pumping of my heart as it circulated the blood through my system. This was a powerful experience, being with what is, took on new meaning. My client arrived within minutes and my focus shifted to “being” with her. The miracles reside within the stillness waiting for you to embrace them.

True freedom comes through spirit, for where there is true freedom there is peace, and where there is peace, there is love; and it is love that unlocks all doors. Where there is love, there is no criticism, no condemnation and no judgment, for you begin to know deeply and understand that all is one. You see the very best in everyone and everything. Once a chick has emerged from its shell or a butterfly from it chrysalis there is no going back, only a continuous unfolding into the new. Let the action of unfolding be a day-by-day, hour-by-hour, and minute-by-minute process for you. Feel the excitement and expectancy in all that is taking place. There is never a dull moment in this life there is always something happening. Let it happen and never try to hold up progress, but go along with it all. Find the perfect rhythm in your life and give your best to it. Flow with it, not against it, and you will find peace of heart and mind.

Blessings,

The technique is called Grounding and Centering, and it is our primary tool in raising our vibrational frequency. It is a breathing and visualization technique and it has three parts:

The first part connects you to the center of the Earth and allows you to draw up the dynamic energy of aliveness to fill every cell of your body.
The second part connects you to the Higher Worlds, to your Divinity and to your self-love – refilling every cell this time with love and with light.

The last part surrounds you with a field of energetic protection, allowing you to move safely in the world.

Learning the technique is easy; remembering to practice it takes awareness. It takes three weeks of practicing the technique morning and night, to build your circuitry and after that you can learn the shorter forms that allow you to get grounded in centered in just three breaths – or even just one breath.

When you are grounded and centered you are trustworthy. You are connected to your intellect, as well as your intuition, and your feelings and to the natural strength of your body. You are no longer scattered, feel overwhelmed or feel spacey. You are no longer at the effect of others draining your energy. You can refill your energy centers at will, whenever and wher

From that moment forward I felt split, like two people living one life. On one hand I was extremely happy and aware of the many gifts that continue to show up in my life. Aimée and I were writing our book, planning the April San Francisco event while facilitating amazing transformational client sessions. I was acutely aware of the blessings that surrounded me and yet was unable to shake the energies that were plaguing me, frustration, annoyance, edginess which all contributed to fatigue and, at times, exhaustion.

To discover what was happening, I added daily inquiry to my practice, specifically asking for insights into the issue. Each day I got more clarity and realized it was a very old energy – not surprising at all. We have shared for a long time now that anything unhealed is going to show itself so that it can be moved out: here was my opportunity, yet I could not articulate what the core issue was yet. I felt like I was on a roller coaster experiencing highs and lows throughout the day that had me perplexed.

I have always been willing to dive deeply into my healing and felt I was ready to move the agitation, not my normal state at all. I began writing pages and pages, burning them when I was finished thereby releasing the energy. While driving, if I did not have Bijou with me (no need to traumatize my beloved furry companion), I would scream as loud as I could. I certainly felt better and yet in a short while the energies returned.

I once again turned to the guides asking for an inspired next step, I was directed to take a weekend away. I felt blessed to be offered a sacred space in St Helena and off I went.

The first night was dedicated to rest. I trusted whatever was to be revealed would show up in its perfect timing. Late in the afternoon on the second day, I was once again experiencing an intense agitation. As tears flowed, I pleaded to be shown what was at the core of it all, and then it came… In the moment that I felt the jolt months before, an old belief/wound had been reactivated…I am not included; I am separate. The pain was all consuming and intense: more writing, screaming, rivers of tears and blessed sleep brought some relief.

Now let’s be real here… in my current life experience I have NEVER, really NEVER felt more blessed, guided, loved, supported, acknowledged, appreciated and yes, even adored, Now, that is when I am in my higher self. For months now I had been looking through the lens of “I am not included; I am separate” and that became much of my reality. I felt great relief knowing what the core belief was and fully expected to be on the other side of it…but hold on there’s more.

I returned home very happy and excited to be moving forward without the old energy present of not being included/separate. Unfortunately my new state did not last long. I knew immediately I needed HELP to move this one out, I was about to experience Transfiguration although I was not aware of it yet.

As you know currently we are in the middle of radical life changes, shifts in all directions. Some changes are being most disruptive resulting in a radical shift in how we see our self. Life is undergoing significant breakdowns, reorganization and revisions, you will naturally begin to see yourself differently as old patterns and ways that generated a particular indentify break apart.

The term for this is Transfiguration – a complete change of form or appearance into a more beautiful or spiritual state.

The session I scheduled with Aimée and our 20 guides was beyond description, and changed us both deeply for the better. I had to clear my belief in separateness from God in order to feel included here/in this life, which was no small feat, and yet it happened. Each day now feels brighter, gentler and filled with possibility. I now look through the lens that my very existence proves I could not be separate and love flows freely towards me, such a wonderful experience. By allowing the process to unfold the light began to grow stronger within, transfiguration was taking place, I welcomed it with deep gratitude.

Each of you may be tested as your emergence begins. It is necessary to be trusting and open on your journey. To let go and trust that all the turmoil and not knowing what is happening is all part of the process of transformation. Use the disruptions – both within and without – to move you further along on your life path. Begin by using all the tools that you have at your disposal and when it is time ask for help, ask…remember this is not a go it alone lifetime.

“When patterns are broken, new Worlds emerge”

Blessings,

When we radiate high frequency, our energy field invites all those around us to raise their frequency too. It is non-verbal. You can be raising frequency while you are pumping gas or grocery shopping. The higher frequency we are able to sustain will determine the quality of our lives as we go through the myriad of energetic shifts over the next decade and beyond. The higher our collective frequency the more we can attract higher frequency solutions and avoid attracting change through disaster.

If you have been feeling helpless in the wake of patriarchal greed, corruption, and disregard for human life and safety, this is something you can do – for yourself, your family, your neighbors, your country and your precious Earth.

Are you willing to keeping your agreements with Universe, and step up to fulfilling your role as an Anchor for the Light?

We hope so… for all of our sakes…

Most of us are feeling this way these days and we aren’t making it up! This is the time on earth predicted by the Mayans, the Egyptians and the Persians, yes, the time when many predicted the end of the earth. In many ways, if you think about it, since the twin towers fell – life has never been the same again – especially for Americans.

Life as we have known it is ending. We have been living in the Patriarchal Age and it’s time for a shift. Without the balancing energies of the Feminine, we are condemned to suffer perpetual war, famine and poverty, rape and torture, child abuse and domestic violence.

This is the time when in support of the Emerging Sacred Feminine, the Earth is opening its Heart Chakra. Whether we recognize it or not, we are all energy beings, and each of us have a set of chakras or energy centers. The Earth also has chakras and we are all being called to open our hearts, along with the Earth. As you open your heart, you raise your frequency.

As more of us raise our frequency we can attract higher frequency solutions to the problems we are facing.

We’re all playing for bigger stakes this lifetime. Self-absorption, separation, focusing on our own agendas has gotten us into this mess on Earth. It’s so interesting how when we play for bigger stakes our own needs get covered.

When you are up against a problem in your own life you often cannot see beyond your life experience. It becomes the center of your universe and can at times be all consuming. The longer the focus remains on the problem the more all encompassing it becomes, many withdraw at this point. Is there a way out? Yes, the solution is woven into the problem although it is easy to miss unless you step back to get a new perspective. The antidote is to open and give rather than withdraw and contract. If you are in fear of not having enough money give to someone that has less, volunteer for an organization that you have an affinity with, clean out the clothes that you no longer wear, or fit into, and pass them on. The key here is to look beyond your own life and expand your view. What happens every time and I mean every time is that you open to the flow of the universe. You begin to embrace that there is more than enough time, money, health, joy and love for everyone and by sha ring you bring more of what you want to yourself.

If you are reading this newsletter, you made a commitment to the Universe this lifetime to be an Anchor for the Light. As each of us keeps this commitment, we inspire others to raise their frequency, life force energy, too. As we go through this shift on Earth, raising frequency is the way we can safely steer through. As more of us raise our frequency, more of our brothers and sisters around us will also be safe.

Does this sound like a tall order? It does until you embrace that you are part of the Oneness and it is impossible to be alone, everything that you need to succeed in this life is already provided. The more love and goodwill there is, the quicker the change will come. But it all starts in you. Therefore the sooner you realize it; the sooner changes will take place all around you, and so go out into the world. I invite you to choose to play a bigger game, extend yourself every day, the rewards will also be bigger than you imagined.

Blessings,

Can we raise our vibes when we recognize that we are out of sorts? Yes, we can!

But first we need to understand the benefits to us – after all if we are going to change our behavior then we need to know what’s in it for me?

Here’s something you may not know or may not have connected the dots about: the quality of your life is determined by the quality of your frequency. Yup! When your frequency is high, you attract high frequency people, situations and opportunities into your life. When your frequency is low you attract low frequency people, situations and opportunities into your life. Is it really that simple? Find out for yourself… Start paying attention to the results you attract in your life when you feel good or not so good.

You may be surprised at what you find.