I am so happy to be “59.”
No it is not my birthday. I am seeing the payoff of being around for a while now and gaining some wisdom.
Yes, I claim that I carry wisdom and tons of it, although in the past that wisdom often went out the window when I was with family. Oh, you know how it goes; you start out really great, so happy to see each other, happy to be connecting again, and then “the old” starts leaking in. You remember how you have always been irritated with this behavior and that behavior; you would think there had been enough years that have gone by that you each would have evolved a bit! So how do you relate lovingly in spite of it all?
The saying, “Words are cheap, action speaks,” is never more true than when applied to family situations and sharing your love. Whether interacting with a romantic partner, your children or other family members, if the actions aren’t there to back up the loving words, it all means nothing.
Below are 10 of the best ways to say, “I love you” in your actions. But there are thousands more. See how creative you can get in coming up with your own ideas.
- Greet your loved ones with a big smile, a hug and a kiss.
- Really listen to what your loved ones are saying; give them your undivided and undistracted attention.
- Spend time doing some things they enjoy, you may find you enjoy them also.
- Do simple (even random) acts of kindness, such as massaging shoulders or feet, cooking a favorite meal, running a bath.
- Spend one-on-one time with your loved ones, with no particular agenda.
- Commit to truly accepting each other’s faults.
- Be kind and respectful, no matter what you are sharing, always preserving another’s self-esteem.
- Be impeccable with your word. If you say you’ll do something, do it when you said you’d do it.
- Take responsibility for your part in any conflict, and then look at how you can do better next time. Step out of the blame game.
- Share yourself and what lives deeply inside of you. This is a precious gift that conveys trust and security.
During my recent trip to visit family on the East Coast #10 played a big role. I have always been seen as “different” in my family and yes, it true! (Not less than, and yet very different.) Over the years I was not fully myself, attempting to smooth the waters: not this time. I showed up fully being myself, and guess what? I was acknowledged, appreciated and valued. Yes, we have all changed over the years and yet what made the change possible is that “I” made the decision to show up differently, I decided to let my light shine, share my insights, ideas and opinions and let their reaction be fine, whatever that reaction was. Much to my surprise the reaction I received was very positive.
As you enter into this holiday season, spending time with family, friends and loved ones I invite you let your past stories fall away and step into each moment more present and loving, allowing your true light and love to shine through.
Share your experiences and insights at info@raisemyvibes.com we would love to hear from you!
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